The Circle of Life

Originally posted on Aging Abundantly | Women Over Fifty | Empty Nesters | Caregivers | Aging Gracefully:

Disney's Lion KingFive days ago, I celebrated my 63rd birthday. Some days I think the internet and social media are just a fantasy world in which some of us choose to live from time to time – for me, birthdays are one of the best days to be alive and well and living on Facebook. Wow! I can pretend! It sure beats the many years when my kids were small and my husband was either out of work or laid out by work and birthday celebrations were pretty much all my doing. The day I broke down and bought myself a birthday cake simply because I wanted one was the second most liberating moment of my younger life. The first has to be the day my husband said to me, “Why are you cooking for me, honey, and why the heck are you making my lunch? Don’t you have better things to do?”…

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there is nothing wrong with you at all


“What I am really saying is that you don’t need to do anything, because if you see yourself in the correct way, you are all as much extraordinary phenomena of nature as trees, clouds, the patterns in running water, the flickering of fire, the arrangement of the stars, and the form of a galaxy. You are all just like that, and there is nothing wrong with you at all.”
~ Alan Watts, Zen Philosopher

Balance Your Brainwaves!

One of the fascinating advances in neuroscience  is the understanding of brainwaves.


What are Brainwaves?

Your brain is made up of billions of brain cells called neurons, which use electricity to communicate with each other. The combination of millions of neurons sending signals at once produces an enormous amount of electrical activity in the brain, called brainwaves. Researchers have found that not only are brainwaves representative of  mental state, but they can be stimulated to change a person’s mental state.

What follows is a basic description of the four major patterns.

Beta Brainwaves 12 – 40 Hz

The predominant frequency when we are fully awake and alert. Stimulating beta activity can improve emotional stability, energy levels, attentiveness and concentration. Producing excessive beta brainwaves can create stress, paranoia, worry, fear, and anxiety, hunger, irritability, moodiness and Insomnia. 

Alpha Brainwaves 7-13 Hz

Awake but deeply relaxed. Associated with “peak performance.” Meditation and relaxation, creativity, memory and learning, tranquility, calm and peaceful state. Lessens discomfort and pain and reduces stress and anxiety. Habits, fears, and phobias begin to melt away. When you close your eyes your brain automatically starts producing more alpha waves.


Theta Brainwaves 4-7 Hz

Light sleep and/or extreme relaxation. Receptive mental state that has proven useful for psychotherapy. Insight, intuition, inspiration, heightened problem-solving skills. Dream like imagery and vivid dreaming. Feel more connected to others. Access to subconscious and memories.

 Delta Brainwaves 0-4 Hz

Deep, dreamless sleep. Renewal, healing, rejuvenation. Best state for immune system restoration, and health.

Brainwave Entrainment

Brainwave Entrainment refers to the brain’s electrical response to rhythmic sensory stimulation, such as pulses of sound or light. Entrainment is a principle of physics. It is defined as the synchronization of two or more rhythmic cycles.

When the brain is given a stimulus, through the ears, eyes or other senses, it emits an electrical charge in response. These electrical responses travel throughout the brain to become what you “see and hear.” When the brain is presented with a rhythmic stimulus, such as a drum beat for example, the rhythm is reproduced in the brain in the form of these electrical impulses. If the rhythm becomes fast and consistent enough, it can start to resemble the natural internal rhythms of the brain. When this happens, the brain responds by synchronizing its own electric cycles to the same rhythm.

Check out various brainwave Apps for your phone. Here’s one:

Brain Wave ™ - 30 Advanced Binaural Brainwave Entrainment Programs with Relaxing Ambient Background Sounds, Gentle Alarm and iTunes Music Integration for Sleep, Focus, Energy, Memory, Meditation and More


You can also find Brainwave tones on YouTube. I like this one:


“Depression is a disease of civilization”

Originally posted on the secret keeper:

tell me a story
“Depression is a disease of civilization”
TED Talk Speaker Stephen Ilardi
Post Created by Jennifer Kiley
Posted Thursday 14th August 2014

Humans were never meant for this world.
We were never designed for the sedentary,
indoor, socially isolated, sleep deprived,
vastly lazy pace of human life. Our genes
haven’t changed that much.

Depression has continued to increase.

There is a need to have a change of
life style. What did our ancestors do
that we are doing to protect ourselves
from the overwhelming illness of

There are way to Work on Depression

Exercise is medicine. It changes the
brain & the body. But we don’t exercise.
It slows down the aging process. If you
live you don’t need exercise. What we
need to be is physically active.

Brisk walking is good. If you are
able to. 30 mins. 3 x per week.

We need Omega…

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Just Breathe

Excerpts from Garima Roy,  Fractal Enlightenment

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Breathing in, I calm body and mind.

Breathing out, I smile.  ~Thich Nhat Hanh

Notice a new-born child sleeping. Just watching the child take deep breaths while he or she sleeps is meditative! You will see the abdomen expanding and contracting to its full capacity; this is our natural breathing state. But as we age our breathing tends to become more and more shallow. It becomes shorter and never reaches the abdomen.

We need to re-learn how to breathe.

Breath is the life-force energy. Our heart beats because of the breaths we take and due to this natural bodily function, energy is disseminated to each and every part of our body. Unconscious and disordered breathing can lead to heart and respiratory diseases, muscle cramps, numbness, reduced cognition, panic attacks, superficial blood flow which in turn can lead to host of diseases. Therefore, its crucial and advisable to practice conscious breathing.

 Conscious Breathing

The conscious act of breathing involves inhaling oxygen deeply, holding your breath for 3-4 seconds and then exhaling slowly, till you can’t feel any sensation near your nose. Following this simple technique brings a great amount of positive changes to your body, mind and soul. It is as important as sleeping and eating.

Researcher’s  have demonstrated that slow breathing increases alpha waves in the brain calming the mid-range waves which helps induce an alert yet relaxed state of mind.  Conscious breathing also helps in reducing stress levels, blood pressure, muscular tension, and much more.

Conscious breathing demands you to be in the present, and when you are mindful of the present, you aren’t loaded with thoughts of the past and future.

As you breathe consciously, you become aware of your life force – in that awareness, you discover joy and positive emotions, and mindless thinking dissolves.

“Just breathe” are two magical words that you should always remember and practice. It will lead to a balanced mind that swims in the realm of peace, truth and serenity.


Next tidbit: Brainwave Entrainment! 

Self-love is an Inside Job.

What Self-Love Means:

20+ Ways to Be Good to Yourself

By   from The Tiny Buddha
If one more person told me to go love myself I was going to levitate into the air and pull one of those impossible martial arts moves from Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon. I was sick of it!
What the heck does loving myself mean? Were they talking about bubble baths, pedicures, and cucumber masks? It turns out there is so much more to self-love than just pampering ourselves.
I found this out the hard way.
 I did not have a big enough inner container to hold the love I so desired even if I received it, because my self-love tank had shrunk down to the size of a bottle cap.
This realization launched me into a relentless search for the meaning of self-love, internally and externally. I found that self-love is a not a destination, it’s a practice. It is like brushing our teeth. Self-love is a foundation on which we build a happy life. Without self-love, we have nowhere to put the love or abundance that comes to us.
Not sure what it looks like to love yourself? Here is what I’ve learned.
Self-love is…
1. Choosing ourselves, even if it means upsetting others and not being popular anymore. Even if it means we leave a party before anyone else because we feel tired, overwhelmed, or just plain feel done with the crowd.
2. Telling what is true for us, not swallowing words that express what we truly feel, think, or want to do.
3. Giving our body the nurturing, rest, exercise, and comfort it needs to the best of our ability.
4. Wearing clothes that make us feel good and fit our personality instead of wearing clothes that are in fashion that we use to impress others.
5. Building a life that we love while we are single instead of waiting for our prince/princess to show up to explore life and to be happy.
6. Accepting ourselves with the good, the bad, the ugly, the sexy, and the smelly—all of it—and appreciating ourselves as whole people.
7. Making time to do whatever we love, just to play, without worrying about wasting time.
8. Owning our inner and outer beauty and complimenting ourselves without feeling guilty, arrogant, or entitled.
9. Not rehashing our past mistakes and dragging ourselves to a dark place when we know that we can only learn from the past; we can’t change it.
10. Spending some quality, connected time with ourselves instead of always watching TV or wasting time on the Internet.
11. Using discretion when sharing our heart, self, and dreams with others.
12. Trusting the path that our soul is on and making a genuine effort to become a conscious co-creator of our destiny.
13. Not blaming our parents for our current issues, and looking for ways to heal our wounds and change our dysfunctional patterned behaviors by reaching out to ministers, therapists, coaches, and healers.
14. Following what our gut/intuition says instead of living out of our brain and ego.
15. Staying in our integrity, both when it comes to ourselves and when interacting with others out in the world. This includes keeping ourselves in check regarding patterns such as lying, manipulating, co-depending, withholding, and pretending.
16. Allowing ourselves to dream big, without contaminating these dreams with judgments, our perceived limitations, or a lack of sense of deserving.
17. Knowing how we’re spending our emotional, mental, financial, and physical energy, and whether these activities bring back joy, connection, nurturing, rest, and creativity to our lives.
18. Taking responsibility for all of our experiences. Knowing that we have the ability for deeper self-awareness and access to our intuition when it comes to making life choices.
19. Not labeling ourselves with others’ opinions of us, while having the courage to look inside to see if there might be some truth to them.
20. Learning to set boundaries that protect and nurture our relationships, with ourselves and others.
21. Allowing ourselves to make mistakes and not berating ourselves for making them. Instead, choosing to appreciate our desire to learn and grow.
22. Refusing to seek permission or approval to be ourselves. Recognizing that we, like everyone else, deserve to take up space on this planet just as who we are right now.
And lastly, self-love is:
23. Loving and accepting ourselves even when we fail miserably at some of these self-love goals.
No one else can offer these things to us. No one else can take our vitamins for us or prevent us from going into a self-loathing attack. Even if we land the best partner on the planet, this person won’t be able to make us happy and feel loved unless we create the space for it inside by practicing self-love. This is why self-love is an inside job.
From my heart to your heart…